This was a great realisation for me. All precious things need to be nurtured and treated well - when I was drinking, nothing was really ever given the respect that it deserved.
I think that was because when your brain is such a muddle it is very difficult to sort through what matters and what doesn't. It is all just a big fog and our decision making abilities are marginal.
It wasn't until I stopped that things slowly started to fall into place, especially relationships and making sounder decisions. It wasn't a conscious process, it just started to happen due to perhaps my prospective being completely different.
I had no idea it was as bad as it was until I could look back on the "then" and "now". I still can't really remember the last two years in clarity up to when I stopped drinking in November. It's still foggy and I don't push it.
Many bloggers have said over and over that we need to treat our sobriety with respect (https://ainsobriety.wordpress.com). This is a difficult concept to embrace mentally - well it was for me. I didn't understand the concept of how to do that and it wasn't until about 7 months in that I "felt" what needed to happen.
Like all relationships, the one between ourselves and our well-being (physical and mental health) requires work. Whether it be the gym, our diet or whatever we do have to stop ourselves being excessive in the wrong areas.
It is a natural progression I feel, that given the availability of alcohol and the message of how good it is for us as a stress reliever, our human condition will push the envelope. We will start to use it incorrectly more often than not.
There is no median. There is not "diet". There is not warnings: "if you don't excercise and eat too much you will become overweight" "if you start to feel depressed you need to see a Dr or a counsellor" With alcohol no body want to talk about it so it isn't until you have 7 DYI's and are on a park bench and then it's like "hey better get that person out of society - yuck... let's kick them into that weird program AA for all the losers who can't control themselves".
So it's up to us. We have to look after ourselves. We have to treat our sobriety with the respect and care it deserves. We have to stop thinking of them and us and we aren't part of a club anymore, and concentrate on how we are taking an incredible leap of faith into the future.
One day everyone will know this and we will look like the pioneers of physical and mental health.
Loads of love and respect to you all