This is an amazing post and thanks so much for sharing it :)
It is like this giant "unspoken" in many rooms - why the hell should we be ashamed by:
1. getting conned into thinking drinking is cool (and a sensible, normal stress reliever)
2. naturally getting addicted - because it is addictive!
3. going it alone trying to get off the stuff - looked at by others as a fuckup because, as you say, we can't drink "normally"
This has now made me super fucking furious!
More so, how many others are going to follow this amazing artist Nelsan Ellis' footsteps? So many, ... too many.
PS I can't mention being sober to my mum and dad anymore as they now think the whole thing was really just a silly mistake that I made. Eventually I will get over it and get on with "normal" drinking again.
PPS Some of my friends that I have told that I drank too much and have now given up, if I ever mention it again in passing like "I took drinking far and have stopped" they almost hurry me through the sentence, lots of nodding "mmm mmmm yes". Like I am some kind of either sober advocate, or that the whole situation is yucky and they have boxed it in the embarrassing carton. Or maybe they think I am some Martyr but either way they are visibly uncomfortable.
PPPS Sometimes if I am out and get offered a drink and say I no longer drink as I found it addictive people actually look like they have stepped in dog poo :) I walk away feeling humiliated and vow never to mention it to anyone again.
How dare people make you feel like you should be ashamed or that you don't have the ability to "drink normally" so you are a "them" and not an "us"? They dare because of the conditioning that alcohol is a normal part of a human beings diet. Just like vegetables. We are sheep to the lies of alcohol propaganda.
This ignorance and total con just proves Maynard from Tool's sheep noises to the audience in one of my cd's with Sober on it (the Opiate EP?). Was he perhaps referring to this issue.....