Friday, 23 June 2017

Substitution - it's complicated

Hi

I was hoping for some help on a really interesting subject that I haven't read much about.

Please have a look at Lia's post:

http://3440dp.blogspot.co.nz/2017/06/fraud_21.html

Brave Lia is a couple of weeks (about 2) into going without alcohol and would love to hear some experienced (and not) views on when we feel we are substituting and when we are not.

Michelle xx

8 comments:

  1. Thanks for the support. Love the mathematical image, applies in this case extremely well!

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  2. Update and somewhat related to substitution:

    My life has completely changed since Nov last year. Alcohol had the worst effect on me, my anxiety, my relationships, my future, depression.

    since giving up I have been lucky enough to throw away my anti-depressants, my migraines seem to be linked to stress and have all but disappeared lately. I don't get depressed as much and keep a mood chart which is so great to do.
    Making better decisions which seems to have a snowball effect leading me to such a great place compared to this time last year.

    It is slow but my life is getting better and better each day.

    I don't understand why as I was not drinking that much before my last two years but perhaps alcohol as a massive effect on my mental state even in small doses and have been drinking since the age of 14.

    On the occassions that I require opioids for my migraines I am not brought back to any form of where I was with alcohol. I am aware of my addiction issues and always write down EXACTLY what I take and when (even panadol) it is getting less and less each month. I agree that doing anything to "escape" is very dangerous at this point (or any). Face it head on.

    M xx

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  4. I wonder about substitution a lot. I sub in sugar which is hugely common. One year on from quitting I still struggle with controlling sugar and binge on sweets and chocolate, which I would never have done whilst drinking. I have prescription diazepam for a back problem and doc advises to take when needed to help my muscles relax if the pain prevents sleeping. I am actually too scared to take these now in case i start to sub them in! I have come to realise I used alcohol in part to cope with the pain, it helped medicate and dull the pain. X

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    1. Yes I see what you mean. The coping mechanism is easily replaced with other stuff. So many of us are aware of this which is great
      M xx

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  5. I think Anne hit it on the head, when she talked about coping mechanisms, when life gets boring, stressful and so on.
    If the only way we know how to cope is by drinking, eating, smoking, shopping, etc, we are really hurting ourselves. Life is hard, and the more I learned about self-compassion the better able I am to find other healthy ways to cope.
    xoxo
    Wendy
    PS - I'm Back!!

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    1. Yay so glad - but equally happy you had such a great trip.
      Really positive thing to look back on for ages right Wendy!
      Michelle xx

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  6. This is so true and encapsulates what I am struggling with right now so thank you! I am at the stage where I am good and sober but do not always find the healthy way to cope because my learned behaviour is to rely on alcohol, foods etc. Thanks Wendy! X

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